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I’m no relationship blogger or guru, however it’s safe to say dating now is an awful lot different to dating at a time when my parents met. Thanks to Tinder, Hinge, Bumble and Match.com, the dating game has upped a gear, and for someone who is 22 years old, it’s all I’ve ever really known.

Which brings me onto the The 4 Ds. Four commonalities I’ve noticed in this age of digital dating.
Disposable: The dating culture nowadays is that if you're not classed as good enough by a person, you get thrown away. Goodbye, Adios, Ciyaaaaa. There are plenty of options in the sea. Because of dating apps, there is less pressure to date seriously, making individuals more disposable. The value of someone’s time and energy is reduced and if someone screws up it’s onto the next one without a blink of the eye. It’s quite comparable to shopping at Primark. You buy something to do the job but when something newer and better comes into fashion, it’s bye bye old bag. I once had something end with a guy then he basically said ‘but imagine how many people we could meet on Tinder’ urmmm sorry what??? It’s like there is a constant reluctance to commit to anyone longer than 15 days (Gucci bag) as you could miss out on the next thing to come along (Primark bag). Which is why apps like tinder and hinge are so popular yet damaging by creating a wider pool of ‘candidates’ (yuppp, it’s literally a selection process), as you can literally swipe for 20 seconds before you meeting bae. Hook up culture is alive.
Duplicates: Dating more than one person at a time *rolls eyes repeatedly until they leave my skull* . I personally do not get this one. I would’ve thought when you date someone you focus all your energy on getting to know that person...nope, I was wrong. People will date more than one person at a time in the event that if it doesn't work out with one person then hopefully it works with one of the other 4 people on standby. I couldn't think of anything more draining...you have to remember different places, times and names - who needs all that extra stress.
Well we all know what that third D is….Direct. If you don’t like someone, you ghost them. I should change my name to Casper because my life currently consists of ghosting left, right and centre. We’re all guilty of ghosting or being ghosted and if I were to think of it positively not only does it get the job done (albeit it’s not the nicest way of sorting your yays from your nays), it’s also character building.
The other aspect of direct is direct validation or as I like to call the fourth D, desperateness. Nowadays, I feel like people are desperate for that instant validation of someone else saying they’re funny, sexy or a good cook. It takes a lot more than a few message exchanges on a app to really show your appreciation for someone but anyway, that’s a whole other blog post. It’s sad that validation has become something that is easily exchangeable via an emoji rather than something that people put the time and effort into nurture. Maybe I'm just old fashioned.
What are our experiences of digital dating?
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